Sunday, May 27, 2012

Confusing the Issue: What Homosexuals Really Want (demand) from the Church

Recently there have been a rash of conversations, blogs, and articles written regarding the church's failure to love gay poeple. There seems to be no end in sight of well-respected preachers coming out to rebuke the church for her lack of interest in and love of gay couples. In fact, certain prominant men have accused the church of being unloving toward homosexuals. Why is this happening, and why is it happening now? These are leaders within the church making these observations. Most of them have been leaders in the church for over two and three and even four decades. Why, all of the sudden, are they coming out saying these things to the church?

First of all, most of these leaders are making these comments, not to the church, but to unbelievers in unbelieving forums. It is as if these leaders think it is their job to somehow repair the image of the church. So, there seems to be no shortage of men who want to, in one way or another, apologize to the gay community for not loving them in the way that the gay community defines love of course. My question to these leaders, if they really believe what they are saying about how terribly the church has mistreated gay couples is this; "where have you been?" Isn't the church the product of your leadership? If the church has not been loving gay couples the way it was supposed to, then doesn't it falls squarely on the shoulders of the men who are now out parading about rebuking the very church they produced as if they had nothing to do with her present condition. I call this rank hypocrisy. If these leaders should be doing anything about repentance in this area, shoudn't they should be apologizing to the church for ministry malpractice and to gay couples for their leadership? To blame the church is both hypocritical and refusal to accept ownership for the problem. Why does the church need to repent and the leader gets to stand up and say so as if he his hands are somehow clean?

Now, to be clear, I don't think the church owes gay couples an apology for not loving them. You have to understand that to most gay couples, refusing to allow them to marry is hateful and oppressive. Refusing to allow gay clergy is discrimination. Refusing homosexual membership in the church is viewed as unloving and cruel. The problem with the Homosexual-Christian relationship is that there seems to be no solution without one entity ceasing to exist. The Church cannot tolerate homosexual behavior in her community. Hence, homosexual behavior ends. If the Church tolerates homosexual behavior in her community, she ceases to exist.

Does the homosexual movement simply want the church to be nice to them? Is that really all they are asking? It would seem that such a position is radically naive. Look around you. Listen to the news media. Read the publications. Watch entertainment. Engage people outside the Christian community regarding the subject. I lost another unbelieving friend over this issue recently. He was not arguing that the church or conservatives be nicer to homosexuals. He was arguing that homosexual behavior was normal and that gay marriage should be permitted and anyone who disagrees with him is a hateful bigot. That is the position of the gay movement. I have yet to read about homosexuals legitimately complaining about not being loved or treated with respect. They are uncomfortable in the church because they feel guilty regardless of whether or not anyone says anything to them.

The real problem is that homosexuals do not think the church has the right to judge their lifestyle as unnatural and sinful. And the church has no choice but to make these statements because they are God's unambiguous revelation regarding that behavior. Secondly, how the homosexual community demands to be loved is not the biblical definition of love. They define love on their own terms and anyone who does not meet those standards is deemed hateful and bigoted.

If church leaders really do feel that an apology or repentance is in order, they need to address their own repentance first. If they insist on apologizing, then apologize to the gay community, but don't forget the Christian community as well. Leaders have a responsibility to shape the community after a particular fashion. Scripture is clear on this. If they fail to engage in the activities necessary to equip the body adequately, God will require this behavior at their hands. I am not saying that leaders need to apologize to the church or to the gay community at all. My point is simply that leadership must accept responsibility first before they start pointing at others. Outside the fact that the Christian community is a community of imperfect sinners, she has nothing specific for which to apologize to the gay community about. In addition, it may be the case that some Christians have behaved unlovingly toward gay individuals, this does not justify indicting the entire church for the sins of some.

The only thing I have to say to those in leadership is this:

11 And He gave some as apostles, and some as prophets, and some as evangelists, and some as pastors and teachers,
12 for the equipping of the saints for the work of service, to the building up of the body of Christ;
13 until we all attain to the unity of the faith, and of the knowledge of the Son of God, to a mature man, to the measure of the stature which belongs to the fullness of Christ.
14 As a result, we are no longer to be children, tossed here and there by waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, by craftiness in deceitful scheming;
15 but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ,
16 from whom the whole body, being fitted and held together by what every joint supplies, according to the proper working of each individual part, causes the growth of the body for the building up of itself in love.


  1. May I say that I am a Christian and I'm gay. Now let me clarify: I believe that it is a sin for people of the same sex to have sex, I don't believe in gay marriage, I believe that it is a sin for a man to act like a woman or women to act like men, I believe that the King James Version of the Bible is the only version that holds truth since, on the board of the translators for the NIV there was a practicing lesbian and a Jesuit priest. Other versions leave out parts of scripture. I forsake the life style of the gay community and, with the help and grace of my Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, I shun the lust of the flesh. With God's help I am now disgusted when I think of my sinful past and so very thankful for salvation through the blood of Christ. I read about how many Christians feel about the hate they experience from homosexuals and I am sorry. Now consider the hate that I'm treated with by the gay community, the straight community and by the church community. However, I am not sad, hurt nor do I hate any person. I am glad that God deemed it good that I carry this cross and I pray for the strength to do so with joy, humility, and love. Saying these things I want to be clear in the fact that I seek no glory but only to glorify my God! God's wisdom is higher than man's wisdom. It is imperative that no matter what hateful names we are called, no matter how little things seem to change when we pray or how much the flesh wants to retaliate, we as, Servants of the Most High God must love all people, no matter how hard they make it for us to do, and instead HATE the sin in the person's life. May God's peace rest on those who love the TRUTH. Amen.

    1. I thoroughly appreciate your comments. I rejoice in the fact that God has regenerated your heart just as He has my own and redeemed us both from our own sinful nature and particular proclivities. The Christian community, the real one, has much work to do in standing for the truth of Scripture, lovingly proclaiming the gospel, making disciples, and dealing with those in the community who need ministry as well as those who would subvert the gospel and destroy the church. God bless you in your walk with the Lord. You are an encouragement to those who know you I am sure.


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